I recently had a friend come and ask me how I had mustered enough confidence to drastically change my life path. What was she referring to?
Well, here’s the deal. It all started last week.
I quit my job.
Now, I didn’t yell and scream and storm out of my boss’ office, though that would have been slightly entertaining. No, I didn’t do that, because for the most part, I actually liked my job. I really liked the people I worked with, and my boss was probably one of the best supervisors I’ve ever had the pleasure of working with. And yet, I still quit. Why? That’s a story for another time.
Her question struck me and I thought to myself, “Why are we so afraid of starting? Of changing directions? Of messing up?” Or a better question – Why am “I” so afraid of starting something new? Of changing directions? Of messing up?
We’ve been expertly trained through 12 – 16+ years of school that not knowing the correct answer is cause for punishment. That making a mistake, or even failing isn’t an opportunity for growth, but is actually a reflection on who we are.
It’s easy to play it safe. It’s safe to never start…because if we never start, then we never have to face the consequences if it doesn’t work out. We don’t ever have to be wrong. Or responsible for what happens in life for that matter. We get to let other people stay in charge of what happens to us in life.
It’s way easier to never try and never fail.
But, that’s not what life is all about? Is it.
Now, I’m writing to myself just as much as I’m writing to anyone else. We
don’t have to won’t get things right the first time. So, why are we so focused on making it perfect?
The mess is what makes things interesting. It’s what makes things fun. It’s what allows us to grow…so we can be a bit better next time.
Yes, put your best foot forward. But chances are, any foot is going to be better than no foot.
So let’s get moving.